#MeToo

The #metoo campaign was used in response to the Harvey Weinstein shame—a man who used his position of power to act with impunity as a sexual predator and the industry that was complicit in his making. It demonstrates just how pervasive, extensive, common, not unique, horrific, etc. experiences of sexual abuse and harassment are, especially…

When a woman has something to say and says it with strength

Recently, I received several rejections for various pieces of my writing, each with a common critique: my voice is ‘too’ strong, opinionated, direct. Below, I have bolded and highlighted the mix of adjectives used to describe it. Being ‘too’ much of something is a critique for which I am commonly accused, like most women who…

Thoughts on (white) women in sciences?

A major reason for starting femails.org is that I was having so many important, relevant, thought-provoking and necessary conversations over email, particularly with my brilliant female counterparts, and I knew I needed to share the wisdom with a wider audience than myself. Here’s a great example of one such email turned femail on diversity and…

Three Weeks in My Taipei Time Capsule

Hey Charlene, Three weeks in Taiwan went by just like that. Stepping off the plane three weeks ago, I realized how long it’s been since I’ve been back in the summer. The heat and humidity strike at the airport, which though ugly, is filled with lush rainforesty plants and signs reminding you to check your…

Transitioning

Courtney moved from Seattle to Detroit two weeks ago with her husband and daughter.  She wrote this email about the process of adjusting to a new place to a friend who is her chosen family in Seattle, someone she went through law school with, who brought her and her husband and newborn home from the…

Unearthed: Words you never meant to say

This week’s femail is a bit unique because it was never intended to be sent. Sometimes, there are things that you need to say that you can’t or shouldn’t, but that need to be released from your brain anyway. The spurring words for this unearthed femail involve the topic of marriage idolization in the Church…

Mont Blanc, Failure & Chronic Goldstar Syndrome…

I’ve been struggling with failure lately. Here’s a femail between me and another femail author who gives spot-on advice when I am raw with disappointment and heartbreak. Excuse the language; it gets real. From: Johanna Gusman To: Dena Javadi Re: Mont Blanc Date: 23 August 2017 at 11:42PM Hey, It’s official. I won’t be able…

How not to talk to your future agent, unless she is your friend

To a friend who works in publishing and who, recently pregnant, finds herself navigating her career path and impending motherhood. I don’t have advice, just a growing understanding (and anxiety) of what she’s heading toward.   Hey —-, When I started this email two weeks ago, I was sitting at the Cadillac House in Soho,…

No Church in the Wild

Writing, from the writer’s perspective, exists in some perpetual state between dreaming and waking. Charlene often finds that her best writing is done when writing to someone about things that are happening in real time. These moments often evolve into characters and stories and books– beloved, treasured, with minds and hearts and lives of their…

The Reproduction of Heirarchy/Basic Tips for Law School Success

  It is no wonder that I began femails.org with two of my law school colleagues. As anyone who has ever gone through it can attest, those three years are formative in so many ways. Here’s a femail that I composed for the poor soul that asked me for advice in entering the process… ________________________…

Moving to You

Courtney and her family will move from Seattle to Detroit next month.  This is an email she wrote to her sister Deirdre, a Detroit-based maker and entrepreneur, who has helped make all of the change a lot easier.   from: Courtney to: Deirdre date: August 6, 2017 subj.: Moving to You   Hey Sis, Thank…

Latent, Simmering Sexism…

It’s an experience all too common for women in the workforce and it takes a fair bit of bravery to speak up about it: latent sexism. We have a brave colleague, who will remain anonymous for obvious reasons, that reached out to femails to share her story on this medium. We hope that it can…