On Companionship & Break Ups…

I was trying to avoid a (cliched) romance-related post, but Valentine’s Day provides the perfect conditions upon which to reflect on what we learn (good or bad) from our relationships, and for me in particular, how the meaning of those relationships can evolve over time. Companionship has looked different for me than most people considering…

Weaponized Silence

from: Char to: Jo date: Weds, Feb 7, 2018 subject: Re: Silence Hey Jo, I can’t believe I SAW YOU on Saturday. New York City has always been so good to us. I wish we had more time. I wish we could sit all day in the Met and just catch up and look at paintings…

Biases and Confusion

From: Marie To: Julia, Johanna Date: Wednesday, 17 January 2018 2:30AM Re: Aziz, #MeToo, biases, utter confusion __________________________________________________ Hi team, As I mentioned very curtly on our lady thread, this Aziz story has me all kinds of confused. Help me unpack here? I’m confused because I mostly want to defend him, which is the stark…

New year, Old me

From: Dena Date: Mon, Jan 1, 2018 at 3:17 PM Subject: New year, Old me To: J I, Robot was on TV new year’s eve. And while watching a mediocre movie from 2004 (with some fairly hefty logic flaws) wasn’t exactly my plan, I was way too comfortable under my blanket to change the situation….

“I will see a second time”

When Sheikh and I welcomed our second daughter Sylvia three weeks ago, we received so many warm messages from family and friends. My good friend Kyle, who has been recommending excellent music to me since college, sent over a song: This exchange was meaningful to me for two reasons. First, it was lovely to get…

Writing About Gender…

So I really dug into the archives to find this femail—five years old, from another femail writer and during law school! I saved it after all these years because it shows a) how important encouragement is, particularly with writing and especially from fellow female colleagues and b) as I finish up the publication process for…

Interrupting Ritual

Maria is a fellow UW law grad and social justice pioneer. When I reached out to her hoping she would consider being a guest writer for femails.org, I was thrilled when it was met with an enthusiastic, ‘Yes!’ I was even more thrilled when I read what she submitted. #mylifeismine #sorrynotsorry #empower From: Maria Manza…

For Now, Content with Content Strategy

A friend in OC who does something similar was like, “Isn’t it weird they don’t call us writers? And what we produce…it’s all just “content.”