The Reproduction of Heirarchy/Basic Tips for Law School Success

  It is no wonder that I began femails.org with two of my law school colleagues. As anyone who has ever gone through it can attest, those three years are formative in so many ways. Here’s a femail that I composed for the poor soul that asked me for advice in entering the process… ________________________…

Moving to You

Courtney and her family will move from Seattle to Detroit next month.  This is an email she wrote to her sister Deirdre, a Detroit-based maker and entrepreneur, who has helped make all of the change a lot easier.   from: Courtney to: Deirdre date: August 6, 2017 subj.: Moving to You   Hey Sis, Thank…

Latent, Simmering Sexism…

It’s an experience all too common for women in the workforce and it takes a fair bit of bravery to speak up about it: latent sexism. We have a brave colleague, who will remain anonymous for obvious reasons, that reached out to femails to share her story on this medium. We hope that it can…

Writing About Not Writing

Writing about not writing seems to come easiest to some writers. Here’s a Femail from Betty to her anonymous mentor (hereafter called A.M.), the one she wrote to about not working. ———————- from: Betty to: A.M. date: Tues, July 18, 2017 at 11:01 PM subj: Writing about Not Writing Hi A.M., I meant to write…

Ticking Other: A Diplomat for Diversity and Equality

An excerpt from ‘The Good Immigrant’, subchapter ‘Shade’ by Salena Godden: There is a dream, a grand idealism, that mixed-race people are the hope for change, the peacekeepers, we are the people with an other understanding, with an invested interest in everyone being treated equally as we have a foot and a loyalty in many…

Have Baby, Must Travel

Becoming a parent required Courtney to learn how to hold on tighter to the parts of her identity she values most.  In her latest femail, Courtney maps out her first days and months with her daughter in order to share the experience with a friend who had just given birth and was working through some…

Systematic Uncertainty & Other Feminist Things

While at a Swiss winery one late spring afternoon, Johanna and her dear friend Julia struck up a casual conversation about feminism and women at the workplace. As a particle physicist extraordinaire (watch her womansplaining physics to Howy Day) and celebrated badass female working in STEM policy, Julia thoroughly understands what it means to be…

Dating Advice from a Perpetual Bachelorette

By no means do I qualify as a love guru, but I do actually think I give solid, empowering advice here that deserves to be shared, particularly among women frustrated in this thing we call ‘dating’. A key part to smashing the patriarchy is to break the stereotypes that women should be the passive and…

Eloping for $25 and other grand strategies for marriage

it makes sense why everyone who elopes goes to City Hall for $25: professional officiants are quacks and charge upwards of $400! We could hire a Craigslist officiant for $100, but most of them look like they lead dubious free meditation retreats. 

But Don’t Expect Faulkner: Bashtanka, Peace Corps, and year 2006.

Eleven years ago, Courtney was a spirited 20-something adventurer stationed half way across the world in Bashtanka where she worked as an English teacher for the Peace Corps. The following email was written to her beloved grandmother at the beginning of a two year journey that would teach her much about life’s challenges and how to…

There’s Nothing to See Here

This week: We found new jobs, new ways to voice our anger against the attacks in London, against our President’s rampant kerfuffles, and against the inanities of daily life. We worked our day jobs, mothered young souls, met new humans, traveled to new places, and amidst all this and in the middle of an ab workout,…

On Leaving the WHO

People often ask me what it’s like to live the life of someone who gets to do the socially moral or good thing– and get paid for it. I can’t really say I’ve been brave enough to really live out the lifestyle this work really requires, but I know someone that has. Johanna has spoken up…