Dating Advice from a Perpetual Bachelorette

By no means do I qualify as a love guru, but I do actually think I give solid, empowering advice here that deserves to be shared, particularly among women frustrated in this thing we can ‘dating’. A key part to smashing the patriarchy is to break the stereotypes that women should be the passive and…

Eloping for $25 and other grand strategies for marriage

it makes sense why everyone who elopes goes to City Hall for $25: professional officiants are quacks and charge upwards of $400! We could hire a Craigslist officiant for $100, but most of them look like they lead dubious free meditation retreats. 

But Don’t Expect Faulkner: Bashtanka, Peace Corps, and year 2006.

Eleven years ago, Courtney was a spirited 20-something adventurer stationed half way across the world in Bashtanka where she worked as an English teacher for the Peace Corps. The following email was written to her beloved grandmother at the beginning of a two year journey that would teach her much about life’s challenges and how to…

There’s Nothing to See Here

This week: We found new jobs, new ways to voice our anger against the attacks in London, against our President’s rampant kerfuffles, and against the inanities of daily life. We worked our day jobs, mothered young souls, met new humans, traveled to new places, and amidst all this and in the middle of an ab workout,…

On Leaving the WHO

People often ask me what it’s like to live the life of someone who gets to do the socially moral or good thing– and get paid for it. I can’t really say I’ve been brave enough to really live out the lifestyle this work really requires, but I know someone that has. Johanna has spoken up…

Happy Belated Birthday

When I started this email I was in Heathrow, waiting for a plane to Barcelona where Tom and I met our friends for what was supposed to be a “I’m quitting my job”/my friend completing her Master’s in Social Work trip, but now only the latter reason applies.

Writing Wrongs

Some of my favourite femail exchanges are with my mom. She’s hilarious, wicked smart, and ruthlessly compassionate. With mother’s day having just passed, it’s only appropriate to share a recent conversation. From: Dena Date: Mon, May 15, 2017 at 8:30 PM Subject: Writing wrongs – appropriate appropriation? To: Mom Canadian lit had a bit of…

What About the Children?!!! (And Other Anxiety About Climate Change)

Courtney is the mother of a beautiful daughter; and as mothers do, she dreams of who her child will be, how her daughter will live her life, and how much her daughter’s world will have changed from the one she lives in today. Here’s to a femail on the future:   From: Lindsey Date: Mon, Apr 15, 2017 at…

Message Threads #FTW

This month marks my three year anniversary of expat life having lived in the Philippines, Samoa, Egypt and Switzerland since leaving the States in May 2014. My life is certainly atypical in this way, and while my travels have generated great photo ops on Instagram, I think it is always important to remember that life…

Dominance & Submission

Charlene and Betty met in the second grade by the tree outside of Mrs. Reed’s red front door. They have no memory of what was discussed (and truthfully, Betty has no recollection of it at all), but what began was a long succession of conversations about everything under the sun. A few weeks ago, Betty…

Chemistry

Sheikh and Courtney met in New York City in June 2009 and all summer they exchanged daily emails from work before meeting up and wandering the city together.  Though now they are married and living together in Seattle, when they need to unwrap a thought, they still send each other an email.  This is one…

I Lost My Job. Again.

I really wish this wasn’t the update I had to write you after a long time of no update, but I was let go from my job AGAIN.