“I will see a second time”

When Sheikh and I welcomed our second daughter Sylvia three weeks ago, we received so many warm messages from family and friends. My good friend Kyle, who has been recommending excellent music to me since college, sent over a song: This exchange was meaningful to me for two reasons. First, it was lovely to get…

Writing About Gender…

So I really dug into the archives to find this femail—five years old, from another femail writer and during law school! I saved it after all these years because it shows a) how important encouragement is, particularly with writing and especially from fellow female colleagues and b) as I finish up the publication process for…

Interrupting Ritual

Maria is a fellow UW law grad and social justice pioneer. When I reached out to her hoping she would consider being a guest writer for femails.org, I was thrilled when it was met with an enthusiastic, ‘Yes!’ I was even more thrilled when I read what she submitted. #mylifeismine #sorrynotsorry #empower From: Maria Manza…

For Now, Content with Content Strategy

A friend in OC who does something similar was like, “Isn’t it weird they don’t call us writers? And what we produce…it’s all just “content.”

Saline: A Comment on Private Healthcare

from: —- to: —– date: Wed, Aug 30, 2017 at 4:15 PM subject: Saline ——–, Sitting in the ICU and completely unable to work because of the utter bullshit that has been the last twenty-four hours. The runaround my family has gotten only proves to me that healthcare reform is absolutely necessary, especially as it…

Biased Leadership

Organizational change always brings about thoughts of how leadership is affected by external influences and historical biases. This exchange was me trying to work through some of these thoughts. From: Dena Date: Sat, Nov 11 2017 at 10:30 AM Subject: Leadership & Bias To: Mom & Sis Hi fam, I can’t help but think about…

The Cognitive Dissonance That Is Our Lives

On Sat, Oct 28, 2017 at 6:52 PM, Johanna Gusman <johanna.gusman@mansfield.ox.ac.uk> wrote: So, I had to write you because I just experienced my first ‘High Table’ event at Oxford last night. It was an experience unlike any other and I am having serious mixed feelings about it all. If you aren’t familiar with it (I…

The Saddest and Most Inspiring Thing

I have the honor of introducing our first #femail post from a male writer! It’s a beautifully written email from a fellow Fulbrighter while he was abroad in Timor-Letse that explores the emotional tribulations that such experiences present. It is raw and real and I am delighted that he chose to share it via femails….

Between

As Courtney prepares to have her baby, she confides in her closest friend about her professional goals and the short-term sacrafices she has made in order to build her family.   ___________ From: Courtney To: — Date: October 24, 2017 Subject: Update and Love   Dear –, This morning is shrouded in gray and the streets…

#MeToo

The #metoo campaign was used in response to the Harvey Weinstein shame—a man who used his position of power to act with impunity as a sexual predator and the industry that was complicit in his making. It demonstrates just how pervasive, extensive, common, not unique, horrific, etc. experiences of sexual abuse and harassment are, especially…

When a woman has something to say and says it with strength

Recently, I received several rejections for various pieces of my writing, each with a common critique: my voice is ‘too’ strong, opinionated, direct. Below, I have bolded and highlighted the mix of adjectives used to describe it. Being ‘too’ much of something is a critique for which I am commonly accused, like most women who…